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Great video from Hank.

Thanks, John…

I want to be clear that I was not trying to represent every sort of sexuality that exists with these four perspectives…that’s crazy talk. This is not an “intro to sexuality” video. 

Instead, I wanted four people who I know and like a lot to talk about sexuality in an open and intelligent way. Just having people talking about their experiences being people is valuable when it comes to sex because the taboo is significant, and it can lead to self-hatred, terrible decisions, and general unappiness.

I had a lot of confusion when I was coming to terms with my sexuality. So this video is basically for 14 year old me, who lived in a culture where the differences between sexual attraction, love, and gender were not discussed. 

Because we don’t talk about it openly, there’s often a lot of pressure on people to hide their sexuality, or be afraid of who they are. I hope this video helps some of those people.

That being said, I would like for there to be a place on the internet where people talk intelligently about this stuff regularly and more deeply. I don’t know that I’m the right person to do it (I am busy and not an expert) but I have some ideas, so hopefully that kind of content is something the world would be interested in.

If so…I’ll strategize.


New Zealand has become just the thirteenth country in the world to support gay marriage.

(via thetruthaboutnobodies)


So much awesomeness in one picture


13 Photos From Taiwan’s First Same-Sex Buddhist Marriage

Huang Mei-yu and Yu Ya-ting wed Saturday in a traditional Buddhist ceremony. Their union still isn’t recognized by the Taiwanese government, though support for gay marriage is mounting across Asia.

By Jessica Testa on Buzzfeed

Buddhist Master Shih Chao-hwei performed the ceremony, giving the women his full support: “I am certain you will lead a life of happiness together, especially after you have overcome so much difficulty and societal discrimination,” he said. “You have blessings not only from the Buddha, but also from those whom you may or may not know who are in attendance.”

(via thelesbianguide)

Be kind to yourself. Stop telling yourself that whatever you are struggling with “should” be easy. If something is hard for you, it is hard for you. There are probably Reasons, though those may just be how you are wired. Acknowledge these things. When you finish something hard, be proud! Celebrate a little.

And really, just stop saying “should” to yourself about your thoughts and feelings in any context. You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do. Stop beating yourself up for who and what you are right now–it isn’t productive. Focus on moving forward.


Lots of love from PFLAG groups everywhere in the world. Please take a look at this fb page, maybe make a video to submit. As it isn’t legal to cut out the tongue of the woman who said that ridiculous comment, this project will have do. 

(via thetruthaboutnobodies)


The House of Representatives in Rhode Island approved a bill that would legalize marriage equality. Next up it will face the Senate, but that’s not necessarily a sure thing:

Senate President M. Teresa Paiva Weed personally opposes marriage equality, but she has committed to allow a Senate committee to consider the House’s bill and then for it to head to the full Senate should the committee lend its support. The Senate Judiciary Committee is chaired by Michael McCaffrey, who opposes marriage equality but activists expect the bill will survive the committee’s consideration.

Gov. Lincoln Chafee has said he will sign the bill. And Chafee helped to push the bill along by predicting he’d veto a competing idea that would have put marriage equality up for a public referendum. State Sen. Frank Ciccone has proposed doing just that and is hoping to gain traction needed for his alternative.